By Dr David Laing Dawson
Like many others (according to Google) I had to check the lyrics to see what the fuss was about.
The male lyrics in this duet are a little 1950’s pushy. It is easy to see Frank Sinatra or Dean Martin in the role.
But there is nothing in the female lyrics that indicate she does not want to stay. Rather she wrestles with what her father, her mother, her brother, the neighbour, and even her stern maiden aunt will say. She is conflicted. She wants to stay but what will people think? He, on the other hand, seems to have no qualms, no conflicts. But then, presumably, he is single; it is his apartment she is visiting; he is not worried about what his mother, father, brother, the neighbours, or a maiden aunt might say. This male may even boast about his conquest with his buddies the next day. But there is no indication from the lyrics that he holds some sort of economic or employment power over her.
So, in some ways, this song is a nice bit of sociological observation of the times. A casual sexual encounter puts the woman at far more social risk than it does the man.
And she wrestles with this. She is portrayed as an adult woman tying to thread her way between her needs and wants and societal values of the time.
To ban this song is not only silly it is very regressive. Banning the song infantilises women. It does imply (not the song, the ban) that adult women are so fragile that they should never be put in a position to decide on their own to stay or not to stay. Such a ban, trying to avoid one denigrating stereotype, promotes an equally denigrating stereotype.