When the Mental Health System Refuses to Listen

By  Maria Lorenzoni With Marvin Ross

Much of my writing on mental illness and the flawed system that we have to endure deals with privacy and the absurdity of keeping family and mostly parents in the dark about their loved ones diagnosis, treatment and progress. Maria Lorenzoni recently  gave this  edited presentation this past August to the Service Coordination Council on Mental Health and Addictions of the Central Ontario Local Health Integration Network (LHIN). The LHINs co-ordinate services in geographic areas.

She describes her families experiences with the secrecy of the treating officials and the impact that had on her family. Here is what she had to say:

Every serious sickness is stressful for family members, but caregivers of people with severe mental illness face challenges that are unique in some ways. Imagine for a moment that someone you love has been stricken with a devastating stroke and is in the hospital and can’t communicate, at least for the moment. Now imagine the doctors treating him or her and not giving you details of the diagnosis, prognosis, the exact information in their reports, or the treatment plan. Or just leaving you out of the picture completely. And then imagine the patient slowly recovering, but still not cognitively able to function properly, and perhaps unhappy that they are in hospital, and then being visited by a patient advocate to be informed that he or she doesn’t have to stay in hospital if they don’t want to.

You would argue that this is absurd.

According to a statement from the College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario, physicians can share information with others involved within the patient’s circle of care without asking for the patient’s consent if the doctor has no reason to assume that the patient would object.

Sadly, this does not apply to mental health!

In my case, it was only after three hospitalizations that I was able to press the family doctor to give me the diagnosis of my loved one. We finally got our son  into the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health and we were desperately trying to find the right meds and treatment plan. He doesn’t have insight into his illness, he doesn’t think he needs meds, so it took some hard work to get him to cooperate. And then, this vulnerable person that is in serious need of care is visited by advocates who tell him he doesn’t have to stay there.

Then what?

The onus is entirely on the family to persuade the person to stay in treatment. As a family member, you try to cooperate as best you can, BUT, you are not allowed to have any private discussions with the doctor unless the patient is in the room. Being spontaneous and giving some helpful comments is tricky when the person is right there. The doctors, therefore, make all their decisions based on communication with a patient who’s confused and will not share much because they don’t think they are sick.

He finally went to a Home for Special Care and was put under a team.  While we acknowledge the good work they did, there were a lot of misunderstandings and frustration due to a lack of communication.  No one is perfect, and families need to listen to constructive comments without being made to feel that they are just part of the problem.  In the time that he was there, we had three short meetings with the team , there were serious problems with reactions to meds, but we were not given input.  In fact, when I asked a question, I was told quite clearly…”look, you be the mother and we’ll be the treatment team.”  My family was shunned and made to feel that we were not cooperating, and in fact, we were discouraged from even visiting.

SO, POINT NUMBER ONE – family caregivers need to be able to give and receive information (unless there is a very clear reason not to), be given a diagnosis and prognosis, and consulted on a plan of action for the future.

SECONDLY, we definitely need a media campaign to focus on the obstacles faced by people with “hard core” mental illness. Sadly, the current campaign to destigmatize mentally ill is aimed at the people who have a more socially acceptable emotional problem like depression and who are in a position to ask for help. People are under the mistaken notion that everyone with a mental illness has easy access to good, consistent, hands on care. I’ve spoken to some in the health field who have asked me why my loved one isn’t in one of those residences that provide “professional rehabilitation”, and another health professional who recommended that I access a support group that helps caregivers with the tremendous grieving process that comes with caring for someone with serious mentally ill. They didn’t realize that there are no residences with professional staff, and while some support groups are good, none of them have a counsellor to help caregivers, and actually some of them are nothing more than lectures with information that you’ve read from a book a dozen times.

SO, POINT NUMBER TWO – we need to promote public awareness that people with illnesses like schizophrenia exist – that they are from every walk of life, they are people just like everybody else, they are not the dangerous individuals you imagine them to be and CONTRARY to popular opinion, they do not have easy access to services. Caregivers also need counseling as well to be able to deal with living with their loved ones on a day to day basis

NOW, THE THIRD POINT, and the most difficult, is the problem of housing. There are far too few residences and the ones that are available are overcrowded. A few are decent, others have low standards, and the people who live there are not in a position to stand up for themselves.

People with very serious mentally ill are most in need of supportive housing, yet they are the least likely to obtain it. They DO NOT GET MEDIA ATTENTION, AND DO NOT HAVE A VOICE. There is no easy solution, but with SOME BRAINSTORMING AND SOME PROPER REDIRECTING OF FUNDS, some pilot projects can begin to appear. Families would be delighted to help in any way they could, and IN FACT, THEY NEED TO BE PART OF THE PROCESS, so that a proper support system could be implemented.

I know so well that parents of adult children with serious mental illness are very concerned about the future of their kids and want to see them living in a place where there is hope, dignity and support.

If the public becomes more aware, and less afraid of mental illness, if there is more communication with families on the part of health professionals, more guidance and support for families and the hope for proper supportive housing, the future can be much more promising.

 

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5 thoughts on “When the Mental Health System Refuses to Listen

    1. Yes Susan, Maria Lorenzoni Has challenged the system with very good reasoning.

      Still there are far too many people in policy positions who fail to understand that being trapped in a psychosis does not render that person the ability to be rational therefore are unable to act in their own best interest. Most families are trying to aid and get serious help for the person trapped. Clearly families are still thought of as the culprits which is absolute nonsense. Not only is this ignorance causing damage to the kin, but to the ill person.

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  1. 100 % agree with You. And to the lack of comunication To family members I could add barriers between the psichiatric and psichology professions. I don’t know if the experiences of the Open Dialog in Finland are a good reference point to you but in my experience with a son with an squizoaffective diagnosis a long and empathic dialogue with our son and caregivers has allways been fructifurous. Thanks.

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  2. I completely agree with everything the writer has said!!!!! I am a mother of a 33 year old son who was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 21. He does not believe he has this illness but remains very dillusional and hallucinates daily despite being on a monthly injection. I have spent countless hours trying to help my son obtain any help I can find for him. The communication with his doctor is non exhistant for me, his mother. My son’s family have invaluable information we could pass on to the doctor were it possible to speak to him. My son doesn’t say…. ya by the way, I have a completely delusional reason why I can’t work or concentrate or think normally in so many ways. He is able, for the moment, to live in a bachelor apartment by himself. It is lonely. He goes from relative to relative each day… he could greatly benefit from some type of small group housing., or even subsidized housing. He does not fit into the criteria for that. No wonder these young people with serious mental illness end up on the streets, often have drug addictions and are very lost in our society. The government disability is pathetic in British Columbia where I live. His rent is over 700 dollars and his disability is just over 900 dollars. As his parent I support him financially with so much more. Not every parent can do that. Another big issue is .. what if there is a better medication or dosage change that would be better for my son …. parents need to be able to give input into what they see their loved one doing or saying to possibly facilitate a better medication or dosage to help their son or daughter. Come on people wake up!!! Families are suffering greatly.

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    1. It is very difficult work getting your son to a new psychiatrist. Especially if the old psychiatrist has not accurately diagnosed the patient and has continually expressed expectations that the patient can work. Giving the patient this false expectation “sets the patient up” and puts him in conflict with support services and family members who all are blamed for not helping the patient find work. When the real reason that the patient cannot work lies in his diagnosis.
      And why would a patient want to leave a psychiatrist who continually tells him he can work like everyone else and commiserates with him about his unhelpful family as the patient who is anxious to give a reason he cannot find work blames his family to save face. The old psychiatrist would not listen to the family even when he had been given lots of opportunity to by various family members.
      But in our case, the efforts to make the change to a new psychiatrist paid off. My son has an accurate diagnosis now. My son now attends Art Therapy where he is “thriving”. He also attends a cooking program where he is learning life skills. Plans are in the works for him to attend a fitness program in the fall with a personal trainer. I would not say we are “out of the woods” yet. But life is a whole lot better. These services were developed by the families of Home on the Hill, a group of parents who got together to support each other, take part in advocating for change, and deliver accessible services for our kids. We got tired of a system which will not listen to families and developed our own organization to meet the needs of our loved ones and their supportive families.

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